I recently caught up with a speaker friend of mine over some drinks. He hasn’t been doing well since the pandemic started. Most of his gigs dried up and he was slow to pivot to virtual programs. During our meeting, he complained about pretty much everything under the sun – the COVID situation, the unwillingness of the clients to pay, the stock market, the lack of government assistance and even about his kids who make too much noise at home!
While some people are born positive and optimistic, most people tend to focus on negativity. It is easy to fall into a pit of complaint, frustration, fear and anger on a daily basis. Positivity, on the other hand, requires some practice.
Start by noticing some good points in your day, however small they may be. Be conscious when it happens. I like to say “Thank you, thank you, thank you” when I notice these small points so that I recall them more easily. It’s also aligned to the Law of Attraction – more good things come your way if you appreciate the ones you already have.
Try to find the silver lining to every cloud. Perhaps you failed in an exam. Well, at least you know that you need to study harder or change your strategy. Got cheated by someone? Now you know how to be more careful!
Start training your mind to regularly find positivity before the big clouds come. Simple daily practices of noticing good things goes a long way in developing your overall mental toughness.